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It's nice to be back in the blogging spirit. I'm not sure what happened over the past month – I suddenly couldn't bring myself to find the camera, think of what to write, or even log in here at my site. 

With so many horrendous and heartbreaking things happening every day on earth, I found this blog (and if I'm honest, most blogs that deal with the minutiae of a comfortable life) nothing more than an examplar of how unjust the world is.

In addition, I struggle to see what I might have to add to any conversation about any thing in particular. 

But that's not the point of this online project; if I can call my blog that. It's only a place to collect small and peaceful moments. Just a scrapbook that anyone can look at. 

My above comments are not meant as a criticism of anyone, but merely an attempt to describe my absence from this space.

Thank you, though, for your interest and kind emails and messages. I'm really happy you like checking in here from time to time.

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It doesn't feel much warmer outside, but seedlings are pushing up through the soil in the vege patch and a few bulbs are flowering. I hope you are enjoying the change of season (or not), where ever you are on earth.

I've got some more finished and in-progress projects to show you very soon. In the photo above you can see one that I finished over winter, with an optimistic summer-heart: a silk top to wear to work, with tiny blue and white stripes. I used this pattern, which has become such a favourite.

And music is something that I've been thinking about a lot these days. My current spring listening treasures are: 

– Dirty Projectors, Bitte Orca

– The new Phoenix Foundation album, Give Up Your Dreams

Frazey Ford, Obadiah

This crazy-beautiful new Joanna Newsom song: Sapokanikan

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29 responses to “planting seeds”

  1. Sarah Bierre Avatar
    Sarah Bierre

    I think that maybe those small and peaceful moments are what everyone in the world, and all the people struggling are looking for so it is nice to be aware and thankful when you do have them, and that’s what your blog encourages.

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  2. Emily Avatar
    Emily

    I know just what you mean, Melissa. The news is saddening me like it hasn’t done for a long time. That’s just why I need Tiny Happy – simple beauty that can be found in the everyday xx

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  3. Bella Avatar
    Bella

    I know what you mean and I find myself pushing aside sad thoughts about the world every day. I’m sure there’s a way to contemplate them more fully but I’m not sure how to do so without feeling extremely depressed. I’m glad that you’re still here now and then though because I love to look at your photos, although I don’t comment much.
    I’ve also been enjoying the new Phoenix Foundation album, particularly the song that shares the title of the album! Something about it rings true, in a good way, and humorously. I really like the way that their sound has changed and yet stayed the same over the years.

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  4. Catherine Avatar
    Catherine

    You are back!!I hear what you say, but my life is so busy and there is so little time for me. Looking at your blog every few days is one of my treats. You have a lovely serene tone. A real tonic.
    I hope you get back into it and continue to enjoy doing it.

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  5. KarenLR Avatar

    I am glad your calm and peaceful spot is here, Melissa. xo

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  6. becky Avatar
    becky

    the world has indeed felt particularly crappy of late. The overwhelming injustice of it all has had me in tears on a daily basis. However,i think we have to take our solace where we can, and make the small differences that make it all bearable. Your blog makes a difference to me as i find it a place of beauty, calm and inspiration. So – thank you for your blog, and i’m so glad you’re back!

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  7. Joanna Livingston Avatar

    I’m glad you’re back – I think those long wintry days coupled with the nightly horrifying and fixable (yet not being fixed) world issues on the news make our world seem surreal and frankly unfair. You’ve written beautifully – I go to places like tiny happy for a moment away from it all, a respite, you give a piece of happiness where it is desperately needed. I hope you feel that you have your blogging mojo back xx

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  8. tinyhappy Avatar

    thank you, sarah Xx

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  9. tinyhappy Avatar

    thank you emily.
    – melissa

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  10. tinyhappy Avatar

    thanks for understanding, bella! and yes, i totally agree with you about TPF.

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  11. tinyhappy Avatar

    cheers, catherine, what a compliment to be likened to a tonic…

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  12. tinyhappy Avatar

    thanks for your encouragement k.

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  13. tinyhappy Avatar

    thank you joanna, xx

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  14. Sara Avatar
    Sara

    Actually there is a point to blogs that deal with the little things in life. They help stabilise the world when all appears to have gone quite mad. They act as places of refuge. From a child I would be in tears over events that happened in the world that were out of my control. They are still out of my control and now I recognise that. Where we can help, then we can choose to do so. But right now, for the terrible things happening around the world mostly all we can do is care.
    We can care too much though if that is at detriment to ourselves, while not actually being very productive, because we matter too and without us, our families don’t have the best us that they deserve and besides that, abstract caring for strangers ‘out there’ doesn’t actually help them – not unless we can act upon that caring. When we can we should, when we can’t we should acknowledge that and make a difference where we can. People suffer in our own back yards too and we can help sometimes there.
    Sometimes this means putting aside world events that in years gone by (before the media brought it to us in technicolor) we wouldn’t have known about, or only so much longer afterwards that there would have been no question that we could have helped and no feelings of guilt or responsibility. Therefore none of that guilt that many of us feel.
    I now divide the world into two. The wider world that I still care about and want to help with but acknowledge that isn’t always possible, and then my own immediate world. That world isn’t just my own family or friends but it is the world that I can actually affect in a positive way, that exists personally to me. Sometimes the wider world needs to be blocked out because it impinges on our immediate world and actually causes us to suffer too (emotionally, mentally), in ways that are detrimental to us and by association those we encounter and interact with. That has a negative impact on those around us – not what we actually want at all.
    Silly gossip about celebrities or daft programmes on the tv have never been more necessary to me now. The world has gone crazy and sometimes I need to get off. Reading craft blogs or gentle stuff about other people’s lives provide a balance to the hideous stuff. If it wasn’t for knowing that stuff still exists, that being happy and contented is possible for people then how would we live? Why would we want to? So, yes your blog is of value. Probably more so than you can know!

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  15. Sweetmyrtle Avatar

    beautifully said, yes i agree and Melissa, your blog is such a place of quiet beauty, Namaste Ginny x

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  16. Julie Lealand Avatar
    Julie Lealand

    Missed your posts Melissa & really enjoy stopping in to take a gentle break with a cuppa & a read of your blog. Its inspiring too & have often made the recipes you post about. I agree with all the comments above, especially the very first one. Take care x x

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  17. tinyhappy Avatar

    thank you ginny and sarah xx

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  18. tinyhappy Avatar

    thank you for this very thoughtful comment, i really appreciate it. X

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  19. tinyhappy Avatar

    thank you dear julie, X

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  20. anissa Avatar

    I have been feeling heavy with all that is going on in the world too. We need those quiet heartfelt moments to help balance the craziness out, so we can still be active where we can. I question my work with the GrowMama blog sometimes too. Then someone messages me about how something small I wrote made a difference. It’s been six years now. Have you ever looked into Joanna Macy’s work? As someone whose been on the frontlines of activism off and on, it has been so important for me. I’ll leave a link in case it speaks to you too. http://www.joannamacy.net/resources/deepecology/111-joanna-macy-council-of-all-beings-july2002.html
    Love to you.

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  21. tinyhappy Avatar

    heartened to hear you are having similar thoughts, dear anissa. and thank you for the link – very interesting and i hadn’t heard of it before.
    This in particular: ‘The interdependence of all life remains just a mental concept, without power to affect our attitudes and behaviors, unless it takes on some emotional reality. We need to feel it, and our capacity to feel is stunted, if we block out the pain within us over what is happening to our world’

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  22. Jan Cox Avatar
    Jan Cox

    Well said, everyone. Here in America we feel the upset too. I think something big is afoot and hence need your blog, Mellisa, now more than ever. I find myself taking more (and longer) breaks from all media. Almost a year ago we cancelled our subscription to Sat radio in my car. I have a 3hour round trip to and from work and the politicos were making me crazy. I do not miss it at all. I am almost 65 years old and never before felt this much negativity bearing down upon me. So I have made changes in my work, still working full time but in a different venue and what is really contributing to my sanity is making for charity and my 10 dear grandchildren. So, Mellisa I check your blog frequently, have your book and have made many,many things that have brought great joy to many people (including me, the giver)!So please know your blog blesses even a little old lady in Elkhorn, Wisconsin in the Midwest of the United States! With so much appreciation, Jan Cox

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  23. tinyhappy Avatar

    dear jan, thank you so much for writing this. XX

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  24. Mary Avatar
    Mary

    Our wider family has a young teenager coping with a chronic condition. I have no words that can honour your sensitivity to the big issues….but want you to know that shades of the happy in the tiny have made a difference in our small corner of the world. Simple craft projects have been very therapeutic..as have the cards parcels & food delivered with a handmade touch. thank you

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  25. KarenLR Avatar

    Anissa’s comment about Joanna Macy reminds me of an interview I listened to. Do you know of Krista Tippet’s “On Being”? It is a wonderful radio show here in the states. I often find solace there, and you can listen to episodes online. http://onbeing.org/
    xo

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  26. Ellen Avatar
    Ellen

    Dear Melissa,
    For all that is wrong in the world, there are so many more kind and generous and warmhearted people…like you…and it is we folk who offer a counterbalance to all that fear and anger. We do that in our small every day actions of respect and caring, in letters we write, the smiles we give to strangers, in the arms we put around our friends and family and in our blogs too!
    Whenever I feel overwhelmed, I try to look for the simple beauty in things and one of the places I go is here. And it makes me smile!

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  27. Felicia Avatar
    Felicia

    I’ve been thinking about this since you left and I really believe what Claire said is true. I can feel “you” in your writing and all that you care about and value. And as everyone else has said so eloquently I love checking in on your blog. It’s like a form of meditation and calm, taking me back to what is important in the everyday. The little things we do for our families and ourselves. x

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  28. tinyhappy Avatar

    thank you dear F – I know you understand, xx

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